The Making of A Friend

It has come to my attention that sometimes I can treat relationships as a bit of a rush job. I expect to grow close to another person much faster than they may imagine, and I get frustrated by the period of time that is inevitably spent in a sort of superficial stage. To be honest, I don’t see why that stage of friendship necessarily has to exist, if both people are truly interested in getting to know each other.

Beyond my willingness to open up much too quickly, and bare my soul to any new friend that walks my way, I believe this may have something to do with the fact that most friendships expire. If I know I have limited time with someone, then why would I want to dally away the precious minutes we have together? I now see this is an unhealthy perspective, but until writing this post, it had been a pretty subconscious point of view, which is why once again self-reflection, though painful, proves important.

TODAY’S TRUTH: Friendship really shouldn’t be a rush job.

I’m feeling pretty anxious right now, about my relationships and my lack thereof, so I am going to create a list. What do you ask someone to get to know them better? Today’s list is that of questions related to:

Things to Ask a Person to Whom You’d Like to Become a Friend

  • What do you look for in a friend?
  • What makes the perfect parent?
  • What are your thoughts on religion?
  • What’s your theory on how the world came to be?
  • Do you believe in other life forms? Tell me more about what you think.
  • What do you expect from either a.) yourself (day-to-day) or b.) your life (long-term)?
  • Do you believe in a god?
  • What are your thoughts about the afterlife?
  • Penny for your thoughts on the thus far alleged ends of the world? A cheat code to contemplating theories from books and films.
  • What would you say are some of the unspoken rules in life?
  • What’s something you love to do? Tell me why it makes you happy.
  • Have you ever taken the Myers-Briggs? What did it say?
    • What do you think of it (the test/your results)?
  • Do you believe in astrology?
  • Would you adopt a kid?
  • What do you think about dog breeding?
  • If everything happens for a reason, then why do you think we met?
  • What expectations do you have for this relationship? (aka. what do you want for us that we may not have reached/achieved yet?)
  • Do you believe in fate, or do you believe people have power over their destiny?
  • What do you love about your best friend?
  • Do you have any hidden talents? (Pole Dancing, Hula Hooping, Rock Climbing, Burping the Alphabet)
  • Why have you liked your past crushes/partners and what did you learn from them?
  • Beyond genre, what is your favorite type of music? (Think feel, emotion, sound)
  • Do you consider yourself lucky?
  • What are your most treasured possessions?
  • How do you want to be remembered once you die?
  • What do you think of “love languages” and how would you describe yours?
  • What do you think about the educational system in your country?
  • Do you think people choose their sexualities? Do you differentiate sexuality from gender?
  • Have you heard of the levels of attraction?
  • What is the most interesting philosophical discussion you have had? What did you contemplate? What stood out about the talk?
  • What was your favorite class in university? Why?
  • What makes you feel good about yourself?
  • What puts you off about a person?
  • List five ____________
  • How do you feel about your birthday? What would be your ideal way to spend the day?
  • How would you reform _______________?
  • Describe privilege. Do you think you are privileged? Why or why not?
  • How has your relationship with your legal guardians affected you?
  • Who has had the most influence over your life? As a child? As an adult? Currently?
  • What makes you grumpy?
  • What excites you?
  • What do you consider to be a normal part of your life, that makes you anxious when you reveal to people who still don’t know you?
  • How long does it typically take you to consider someone a true friend? What makes the difference?

From Root Report

  • Do you think morals are universal or relative to the beliefs, traditions, and practices of individuals or groups?
  • How do you feel right now?
  • How do you see me?
  • How would you explain your basic life philosophy?
  • How would you explain your basic life philosophy?
  • What accomplishment are you most proud of?
  • What annoys you the most about people?
  • What are some of the first things you do in the morning?
  • What are some of your favorite books?
  • What are some of your favorite movies?
  • What are some of your favorite websites?
  • What are some of your major goals in life?
  • What are some of your smaller goals in life?
  • What are the things that make you really happy?
  • What are the things that make you really sad?
  • What are the things that scare you?
  • What are you thinking about?
  • What do you like least about yourself?
  • What do you like least about yourself?

From Hello Giggles

  • Where is the most beautiful place on earth and why?
  • Are ghosts real?
  • Are aliens real?
  • [What is] […] the sweetest song [..] [you know]?
  • Are you proud of what you’re doing with your heart and time right now?
  • What food will you absolutely not, under any circumstances, eat?
  • What’s the best way to comfort you when you’re having a really terrible day?
  • Has anything/anyone [has ever] saved your life before?
  • What is one thing you’re embarrassed to admit you want to try?
  • Is there something you wish you had said sorry for but never did?

From Live Bold and Bloom

  • What was one of your most defining moments in life?
  • Why did you choose [your] profession?
  • Who do you most admire in life? Why?
  • What are you most afraid of?
  • What feels like love to you?
  • What is your strongest personal quality?
  • What age do you feel right now and why?
  • If you could witness any event of the past, present, or future, what would it be?
  • What is a skill you’d like to learn and why?
  • How would your friends describe you?
  • What does a perfect day look like to you?

From Marshall Jones Jr.

  • If you could try out any job for a day, what would you like to try?
  • What do you think people think of you?
  • What’s the first thing you notice about people?

From Conversation Starters World

  • What would your perfect room look like?
  • What hobby would you get into if time and money weren’t an issue?
  • When was the last time you climbed a tree?
  • If you could turn any activity into an Olympic sport, what would you have a good chance at winning medal for?
  • What job would you be terrible at?
  • What job do you think you’d be really good at?
  • If you had unlimited funds to build a house that you would live in for the rest of your life, what would the finished house be like?
  • What state or country do you never want to go back to?
  • What songs have you completely memorized?
  • When people come to you for help, what do they usually want help with?
  • When people come to you for help, what do they usually want help with?
  • What have you only recently formed an opinion about?
  • What is something that a ton of people are obsessed with but you just don’t get the point of?
  • What is the most annoying question that people ask you?
  • What’s something you’ve been meaning to try but just haven’t gotten around to it?
  • How different was your life one year ago?
  • What would you rate 10 / 10?
  • What kind of art do you enjoy most?
  • Who inspires you to be better?
  • What did you think you would grow out of but haven’t?
  • What stereotype do you completely live up to?
  • Who is / was your most interesting friend?
  • What do you take for granted?
  • What’s your favorite drink (besides water)?
  • What would be some of the most annoying things about having yourself as a roommate?
  • What personality trait do you value most and which do you dislike the most?
  • What bridges do you not regret burning?
  • What irrational fear do you have?
  • What is the hardest lesson you have learned?
  • What do you like most about your family?
  • What would be some of the most annoying things about having yourself as a roommate?
  • How do you get in the way of your own success?

This is the final list, some questions personally crafted and the rest hand picked from a ton of different sites. And if you’re wondering, then yes, I am that person who opens a ton of tabs and madly scrolls through them for the things that catch my eye. Leave me and my 56 sons, I mean tabs, alone.

Anyway, I hope you enjoyed this, and if you’re interested in more questions then check out the links above to find more from each site.

Marketing Student - Comfort-obsessed, plant-loving mess. Always trying. Continually coming to be.

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