Transform Your Space into a Personal Sanctuary in 5 Simple Steps
In college, your room is your only real retreat from school-related stress and social pressure. As such, it's important to transform your living space into your own personal sanctuary.
I didn't fully understand this as a freshman, so I had to learn the hard way sophomore year, when I had a roommate with an entirely different aesthetic and energy than my own. It's hard to live with someone who contradicts who you are.
Before college, I shared a room with my sister for years and attended boarding school, so I've experienced it all (almost): the good, the bad, and the ugly.
Here are a few tips for turning your room into a stress-free personal sanctuary, on a budget. You don't need thousands of dollars to transform your environment into the perfect space for you. At the end, I'll also provide advice about staying sane when you have to share your space with another person.
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Step 1: Self-Reflect
This is the planning phase. Take a moment to think about the things you love. These are the thing you're going to incorporate in your design, because you can't create your personal sanctuary until you know what you enjoy having around your space.
Search Pinterest, Tumblr, and other resources to find inspiration for your personal sanctuary, but be careful not to copy exactly what you see. Let these sources fuel your imagination and then add your own twist to the mix.
Feel free to get creative and make a Pinterest board or a collage, so you can have a concrete idea of what you best prefer, before you hit the stores.
What do you love?
For me, color, comfort, and lighting were the biggest factors when I was shopping for my room. I think of the words versatile, soft, and cozy when choosing decor, because I love options and I need to be surrounded by positive sensory elements.
Step 2: Consider Aesthetics
Your personal sanctuary should be aesthetically pleasing, from the sheets you use to sleep to the storage that's next to it. This doesn't mean they have to be picturesque, but your surroundings should satisfy you. A few aesthetic elements to consider include color, comfort, imagery, lighting, and organization. These comprise most of the matter in your room, and will definitely set the scene for your environment.
What's your favorite color? + How does it make you feel?
I strongly recommend building a color palette that includes a color you love, because it will reinforce positivity in and around your room. For example, my favorite color is blue. It's calming and invites feelings of comfort. I also love neutrals, so I basically turned my space into a collage of blues, tans, and grays.
If you struggle with coordinating colors, try a color-picking tool to generate a palate. I love coolors and paletton, both of which I've recently used to create color schemes for projects. I especially love coolors, because it lets you lock in specific shades, so you can see how they look with other colors you find.
What reminds you of the feeling of home?
Home doesn't have to be a place of residence. For me, home is a feeling. It's a sense I get when I know I am safe, and free to be my least-filtered self. For me, it's important to design a personal sanctuary that emulate's your idea of home.
To soften up my space, I add rugs like this shaggy one by Noahas, tapestries (here is a link to the same one I have), and tons of blankets: the fluffier, the better. You can find these I find at Target, on Amazon, and in Home Goods. The triple-threat of discount dorm shopping.
Which visuals inspire you, or bring you joy?
Imagery refers to anything from art (paintings, drawings, and prints) to posters and photos of friends. I love to have a mix of everything in my room.
On my desk, is an art print by Jo Singh, who I follow on Twitter. One day, I decided to look through her shop, and I fell in love with this image of a woman in yellow and blue. I had a code for 25% off, so with shipping, it only cost $18. I admit, I thought it would be larger, but that's my fault for not doing the math.
Then, littered around my room, I have photos of my friends, family, and places I've been. All of which I print from Shutterfly. If you download their app, you get unlimited free prints! You only have to pay the cost of shipping.
There's also a giant poster of a painting by Albert Bierstadt above my study space, which I got on Amazon for less than $5.
I even have a quirky black-and-white poster of Einstein sticking out his tongue, that I bought at an on-campus sale for 5 bucks (see a similar one here).
See, it doesn't take much to design a space you love.
(Let's pause to say YAY for your progress in designing your personal sanctuary!!)
How do you want to illuminate your space?
Amazon is king for deals on lighting. I got my fairy lights for less than $20, and they wrap around my entire room. There's even a remote with a timer, which I love because I hate getting out of bed at night, but I like being able to see my room until I'm ready to sleep.
The lights I bought are called, "warm white," which is exactly the vibe I was chasing, but you can also get strands with bulbs that emanate a cooler white if that's more your style.
Consider alternative lamps as well, such as Himalayan Salt Lamps, which offer benefits that include air purification and allergy relief. But be careful while shopping, because with the rising popularity of these lamps, some manufacturers have begun to create replicas that aren't made of Himalayan Salt. Here's a guide on how to Know if Your Salt Lamp is Real. Also, Dr. Axe, a doctor of natural medicine, has an article on his site discussing the benefits of Himalayan Salt Lamps if you're interested in learning more.
In most cases your dorm furniture isn't bolted to the ground. It might take some work, but you do have the freedom to move it as you please. So don't be afraid to reposition some (or all) of it.
I've done this all three years I've lived in the dorms, usually before my roommates move in, because it's a hassle afterward when everyone's stuff is in the room.This year my room was the size of a toe, so rearranging had to happen. If I can do it, you can too. In the words of Tim Gunn, "Make it Work!"
Step 3: Be Mindful about Clutter
Now that you've chosen the most important design elements and you have an idea of how your space will be shaped, it's time to think about storage. I'm a firm believer that every item you own should have a home. Does this mean I follow this rule? Definitely not.
Let's be honest, life is messy. But, I do try, whenever I clean, to return things to a space that makes sense.
Maybe it'll get easier after college. Maybe it won't. If you're having the same issue in your room just try your best, and if all else fails, you can always hide it. Out of sight, out of mind. Right?
My last favorite item for dorm storage is a basket. Actually, baskets plural. I've never had just one. Who knew the key to a relaxing personal sanctuary was as simple as having an organized space?
Where to buy?
I bought this linen basket by The Warm Home from Amazon on Prime Day for around $10. (Btw they're washable, which I know of course, because I've already had a few spills.)
You can also check Home Goods or T.J. Maxx - they have a pretty good selection of baskets (and crates) throughout the year.
On that note, here's a quick tip about decor. Yes, it can be cute and purely decorative, but be mindful of clutter.
Too much decor can be 1) distracting, and 2) inconvenient. So as you shop, yes I know it's tempting, but try to picture where you'll put that really cute geometric terrarium, before you decide to buy it. What's the point of working so hard to design your personal sanctuary if everything you put in it stresses you out?
A good way to reel in, is to purchase decor that serves a functional purpose. Organizers of any sort, and boards, on which things can be clipped or pinned are two examples of functional decor.
Step 4: Maintain your Sanctuary's Aura
Hang in there. We're almost done! Get ready to imagine your completed personal sanctuary.
Keep it Clean + Keep it Sacred
After doing all of that work to create your ideal space, you might as well keep it clean. A clean environment is more conducive for productivity, and it makes you feel better overall. The easiest way to keep your space clean is to minimize clutter.
When you first arrange your room, assign everything a home and ensure an item is returned to its place after being used. For decor that isn't meant to be hidden, have a hard limit on the number of items you own. You don't have to count everything, but be honest with yourself while you shop. Don't hoard so many items, that you won't be able to see or use your counter space from day-to-day.
Also make an effort to protect the energy in your personal sanctuary (aka room). The goal is to keep your environment calm and positively charged. Feel free to rebalance your space by cleansing or using crystals to help regulate the vibe.
Though this may sound harsh, you can prevent any significant imbalances by creating boundaries for strangers and not-quite friends. Set rules for their presence, or just don't let them enter if you feel they won't complement the aura.
Especially if you feel someone has the potential to either harm the energy you have established in your space or make you feel unsafe in your own room, don't let them in. It's that simple. There are many other places to socialize, where you won't be jeopardizing the things that make you feel safe.
Keep it Fresh
Air flow is KEY. Fresh air is a must for wellness. The last thing you want, is to come home to destress, and find yourself stuck in a room filled with stale air.
The easiest ways to prevent this are to 1) keep your window cracked, and 2) keep a fan running. This also helps get rid of smells that tend to linger. Whenever you're in your room, you can also keep your door open if you're comfortable with that. It's another simple way to regulate air flow.
And don't forget plants (like these succulents). They're heaven-sent. Beautiful and they purify the air?! 10/10
Keep it Aromatic
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I don't know a thing about the technicalities of aromatherapy, but I can tell you that there is a scent out there for everyone. Personally, I'm attracted to musky scents, with amber and sandalwood notes. Throw a bit of rose in there, and I'm in heaven. My body instantly relaxes, and life seems less messy. Personal sanctuary who? Just buy a candle instead. (kidding!)
I get my candles from T.J. Maxx. I also have a wax warmer that I fill with $2 wax cubes from Walmart. The Walmart cubs are super affordable, but you can find wax melts almost anywhere that sells candles: Amazon, Yankee Candle, even Bed, Bath, and Beyond (especially Bed, Bath, and Beyond).
And for those of you who have yet to learn about the magic of wax warmers, they are essentially candles that don't require a lighter. The base contains a light bulb which warms the wax and a removable lid sits above the bulb to hold the wax as it melts.
Keep it Sound
Sound is one of the most dynamics factors you can have in your environment. I highly recommend a quality speaker (mine is made by Marshall), noise-canceling headphones (these Bose headphones are pretty popular), or both. These are definitely investments, but they are worth it.
This summer, I bit the bullet for both, and I have yet to regret either purchase.
Obviously, your taste in music continues to develop over time, so don't feel like you have to match your music to the mood of your room. Just play whatever you're feeling in the moment, and it should work out just fine.
Congrats on creating your very own personal sanctuary! Everyone deserves to have a room that can distract them from life's pressures, if only for a while. Again, it's more than possible to transform your space on a budget, even if you have a shoebox of a room.
5. Living with a Roommate
If you've gotten this far, thanks for reading! This is the TL;DR for Creating a Personal Sanctuary, specifically for those who have to share a room.
All my tips, and then some:
- You don't have to sacrifice your comfort because you're living with another person. Of course, you should be considerate, but don't be afraid to set boundaries. Everyone has them. The problem is, many are too hesitant to speak up or clarify their limits.
- In terms of decorations and organization, you have an entire side to yourself. Take that space and go wild!
- If possible, restructure your furniture to create the illusion of privacy. You can do this by breaking up the room: instead of having parallel beds, shift them to opposite corners in the room. Another example, is to turn your desk toward the wall, so you only see your space as you work. If you're lucky enough to have a divider, strategically place it so you can relax out of your roommate's line of vision. I get it, sometimes you don't want to be seen.
- It helps to work out a routine. Don't be the selfish roommate who spends all of their time in the room, and expects complete silence. If your roommate is that type of person, remind them that they have to share the space. It can be a hard conversation, but it pays off in the long run. Should your roommate be mature enough to handle compromise, they shouldn't have any problem working out a rational agreement.
- There will be times during which you'll both be in the room. This is where headphones come in handy. With a set of noise-cancelling headphones, you can block out all external sounds, and focus on yourself. Even if you're not doing anything, headphones act as a sign of isolation. Most people understand that a person wearing headphones doesn't want to talk. If your roommate doesn't understand this, it's more than okay to tell them you want to be alone with your thoughts.
- Lastly, dorms have limited space. This is especially true in shared rooms. Utilize additional storage to organize your items, and avoid encroaching on your roommate's space.
These tips should help you maintain a good relationship with your roommate(s). I really want to emphasize the importance of setting boundaries and maintaining communication. Have a conversation about pet peeves before the semester starts, and don't hesitate to talk about the things that bother you over time. Encourage your roommate to do the same. If they choose not to, at least you know you communicated that intention. But after that, any negativity is their weight to bear. It can be difficult, but make your best effort, and don't let bad vibes drag you down.
If you have any other roommate-related questions, feel free to leave a comment below or email me.