Over time, I have become the girl of my dreams.
I first started blogging on Medium, back in June 2017. As I write this, a little over a month has come to pass. Today, 20-something reflective essays later, I am finally tired of writing about myself.
It feels like the right time, or more like the right time has passed, to explore new genres. I’ve tried my hand at poetry, and I want to stick with it, for poetry and I have a good thing going.
As you may know, May is Mental Health Awareness month. On this blog, I’ve talked about mental health quite a bit, from dealing with anxiety and symptoms of seasonal depression, to improving wellness overall. However, I have yet to take a moment to openly discuss my own struggle with mental health.
In America, over 18% of adults deal with mental health related issues each year. Keep in mind, this describes only the number of reported individuals, not including children and young adults.
We need to make ourselves aware about the realities of mental health, especially if we are going to continue using social platforms to champion advice on health and wellness. It's important to spread the right message to those who are listening around the world.
Authenticity is a hot topic in this day and age. It poses the question that lingers over our heads: Are we being true to ourselves? This proves more difficult to answer than it may seem.
How can one surely be authentic? It’s not like there’s a meter that can scan some intangible essence and return to us, an accurate authenticity score.
In this case, how can we even begin to define authenticity? It's about time we figure this out for ourselves.
I haven’t shared on this blog in over two weeks, a fact which has tormented me every single day. It almost feels as if I have been gone for over a month, since the voice in the back of my mind continually reminds me that I am not getting anything done.
This isn’t true, because in that time I have packed, moved, and finished my finals, but for some reason, knowing this doesn’t help. I honestly couldn’t tell you what's more frustrating than that - having unproductive thoughts inform you that you’re not good enough, over and over again.
As a blogger, our socially driven landscape doesn’t help, because with each day that passes you can literally watch your engagement drop as your followers walk away. After working hard to build your platforms, there’s not much room in the way of positive reinforcement, when you need to take a break.
So what can we do about this?
Personal style is a tough subject for those who lack a sense of style, a sense of self, or both (for the unfortunate few). If you identify with any of these groups, then hey! Welcome to my world.
There's tea on the stove. I hope you like Earl Gray!
There is something liberating about change. Even if change means something as simple as getting a new conch piercing, it’s empowering to make a decision, follow through, and recreate life as you know it.
Everyone has that something, whether physical, mental, or social, that takes them to the next level. No matter how grand or how small, these are key moments in our lifelong development that will stand out for years to come.
What's your something?
What is self care? Across social media, users have been posting tips and sharing threads about what is the 'right' and 'wrong' way to approach self care. The thing is, the same strategies won’t work for everyone.
At the end of the day, your method is entirely dependent on who you are and what you do. Even though there’s no set secret for self care, there is one thing I’ll argue is a good fit for just about everyone out there. What is it, you ask? SKINCARE! An affordable skincare routine is one productive way to procrastinate your problems, and practice self care.
It’s funny, because the day before I saw the nomination, one of my favorite professors came to guest lecture in my capstone course. Let’s call him Mr. S for the purposes of this post.
Mr. S is a HR specialist and an entrepreneur, who has started his own consulting business to help companies, small and large, improve intra-company relationships. By the end of his lecture, we ended up talking about the idea of “credit” or “reward”. Someone suggested that some employees avoid innovation or risk taking because their bosses may take credit for their success. In response, he laughed and asked the class, “What is Credit?”
Today I want to talk a bit more about that.
It’s been a while since I’ve taken a moment to write about life. Since February, my time has been filled with ups and downs, like merry-go-rounds. My thoughts clouded by inescapable distractions.
University is impossibly frantic in the spring. My schedule, normally a rip current of responsibility on its own, has been completely transformed by the ripples that flow from my quickly approaching graduation date. Is there ever a right time to take a break from it all? I’m nearing the point where I’m ready to admit defeat to anyone who’s willing to listen.
Don’t get me wrong, this isn’t a cry for help so much as it's a declaration of disbelief. I'm not ready to face tomorrow! It’s like the future is seeping into the present, and demanding attention I’m not sure I have to give. Still, now is the time to think ahead: to apply for jobs, to follow through with my commitments, and to figure out what I really want from life (for now).
It’s safe to say that together, all of these elements are a bit much to manage.
Modern media is overflowing with digitally enhanced photos, footage crafted from edited clips, and summaries of success stories. None of these show what happens behind the scenes – the MESSY bits that run our world. Today’s society is missing something raw that’s key to the reality of our existence.I have known for a while now that I am not the type of person who thrives in an environment fueled by this state of mind. It can’t be healthy to constantly compare your rough draft to somebody else’s revised version.
I am a MESSY girl, I am not ashamed, and I am sure that however you identify, there is a bit of MESSY in you too because we all have imperfections. It’s about time we embrace them, and free ourselves to grow into the people we’re meant to be.
Journaling is incredible for sorting your thoughts, and regaining clarity when you've become a bit lost in the world. The thing is, it can be hard to start a journal and actually keep it going.
I find it a bit daunting when I have a book waiting for me with blank pages, begging to be filled. What if I mess it up? Or I jumble everything together that it makes my thoughts more confusing than clear? For this, I've come up with a few journal ideas that will make those pages a bit easier to fill.
What is The Sunshine Blogger Award?
The Sunshine Blogger Award is a way to recognize bloggers for adding value to the blogging community. It is a great way to connect with other bloggers and show appreciation for their work; an award created by bloggers, for bloggers. All nominees must answer the questions provided by those who nominated them, and then nominate 11 more people who they will ask their own set of 11 questions.
As a new blogger, I am beyond honored to have been nominated for The Sunshine Blogger Award 2018. All my thanks to Bryoni Burns for nominating me to receive the award. It's hard to start a new blog, and discouraging at times when you don't have the inspiration to create heartfelt content, but nice gestures like these can help a lot.
Everyone should own a journal. Whether it’s a digital document or a physical book, having a place to shed your thoughts is crucial to self-care.
From the relief that comes through releasing your thoughts, to the growth that can be achieved from reflection, journals are key to establishing order and achieving clarity in your life.
If you need further convincing, here are a few points that might just get you to start journaling today.
Picture this: you return to your apartment at night, stressed, tired, and overwhelmed from trying to keep up with the pace of everything in your life.
How does this image make you feel? Does this seem like a good balance of wellness?
To understand that, first we have to figure out what wellness is, what it isn't, and what it could be in our lives.
Wellness is a key factor to maintaining your happiness and achieving success. Why? Because your wellbeing determines how you feel and thus, it affects how motivated you are to accomplish your goals.