Explaining The Messy Life Movement: I am a MESSY Woman

Modern media is overflowing with digitally enhanced photos, footage crafted from edited clips, and summaries of success stories. None of these show what happens behind the scenes – the MESSY bits that run our world. Today’s society is missing something raw that’s key to the reality of our existence.I have known for a while now that I am not the type of person who thrives in an environment fueled by this state of mind. It can’t be healthy to constantly compare your rough draft to somebody else’s revised version.

I am a MESSY girl, I am not ashamed, and I am sure that however you identify, there is a bit of MESSY in you too because we all have imperfections. It’s about time we embrace them, and free ourselves to grow into the people we’re meant to be.

Folk Off: Folk Music to Make You Feel Something

I can’t believe I created an entire playlist geared towards folk music, without including Ezra Bell. Not sure I was okay in that moment, but to make up for it, I’ve made an incredibly long mix of new folky tunes for you guys.

Second try’s the charm, right? This playlist is filled with folk songs that are more personal to me, whether they’re songs I listen to pretty often or bands that make me feel.


Folk Music Playlist - Folk Off

Welcome to this short list of music, old and new finds, that makes me emotional about this life. These songs are moving, each in their own way. They help me see that you can live in the moment. That sometimes it isn’t so hard to tune IN to life, to truly enjoy it, and when you feel it, you’ll know.

PLAY HERE

AMSTERDAM – MANDOLIN ORANGE

I actually discovered this song through Spotify song radio, which was an incredibly happy accident for me. Isn’t it gorgeous?

It made my mind shout, “go for goodness”, ha – kind of sounds like a catchphrase for some kind of spirituality cult or church retreat. On a serious note, this song is beautiful, grounding, and it reeks of inherently good energy. It’s a “wow”.

Sidenote: Is it weird that something about it reminds me of A Walk to Remember? (Comment if you remember that movie.) Somehow, my poor pre-pubescent soul failed to realize how inappropriate most of the humor in that film was. Then again, what deems the marker for appropriateness when you’re a kid? This MIGHT be the reason I am the way I am today.

SOUND & COLOR – ALABAMA SHAKES

Just fucking listen. Listen to the levels that have found a home in the body of this song. Listen to the way it makes your heart leap. Listen to the xylophone (like who uses xylophones in their music?! That’s the shit).

WORD OF MOUTH – SHAKEY GRAVES

Can you imagine sneaking through the dark, your toes whispering their longing for the taste of green grass through the cracks in your floorboard? Or otherwise, pooling heat on cold tile?

Listening to the start of this song, I want the wind to whisper to me – to share the secrets of the moon (who is undoubtedly hiding the keys to the universe). Maybe if I chat her up enough, she’ll reveal her secrets in time.

BUILT TO ROAM – SHAKEY GRAVES

I’ve put these songs right next to each other, because they’re both Audiotree Sessions, which leak every bit of his brilliance through the mic, straight to my soul.

Tell me this isn’t magic, and I’ll simply refuse to listen to your treasonous words.

THIS FEELING – ALABAMA SHAKES

Shakey Graves flows into Alabama Shakes, and together, the two slowww this list all the way down. Smoothed over, they compel you to embrace the pace of their southern-laced songs.

WHEN I WAS YOUNG – ED MASUGA

I chose this song for the hypnotizing instrumentals. Imagining fingers flying so melodically, dancing across strings and charming delicate notes through my earways, I can only lay back and enjoy the beauty-filled complexity of the story being told through song.

A FRIEND TOO FEW – ED MASUGA

Masuga’s song, Arizona, is indubitably beautiful and would have been my top choice as it’s the song I’ve listened to most, but I’m trying to avoid repeating songs on my playlists, as there’s so much music in the world to be shared.

A Friend Too Few is a deserving substitute, with a different, and perhaps more relevant, message that I’d like to share.

THE JOKE WAS ON ME – EZRA BELL

This is a new find. A good find. An innocent song that tells the tale of what seems to be a search for acceptance – the pursuit of satisfaction. I could be wrong though. I mean, I am writing this at 2 am – peak fake deep hours.

THEY THINK WE’RE STUPID – EZRA BELL

Imagine a world where the sweetest fiddle introduces you to every good memory you’re about to make. A beautiful melody, unique to each moment, spills from the corners of your mind. Embrace it lovely, live in the beauty of impending joy.


These are the first few RKS songs I fell in love with, that I’ve been waiting to share. Partly because I also feel that most of these are some of the band’s more popular creations, and partly because I’ve yet to give myself an opportunity to share so many Rainbow Kitten Surprise songs on the same playlist. Sure there was my Spotlight Showcase, but the focus there was diversity. Here? I’m focusing on all the RKS songs that you’re meant to hear together.

HEY PRETTY MOMMA – RAINBOW KITTEN SURPRISE

Can’t write….too busy listening. Meet me at the next track.

FEVER PITCH – RAINBOW KITTEN SURPRISE

Fiery, spirited, and sort of sexy, don’t you think?

DEVIL LIKE ME – RAINBOW KITTEN SURPRISE

Officially deciding not to write much for these songs. They speak loud enough themselves.

Whatchu care to die for?

SEVEN – RAINBOW KITTEN SURPRISE

Listen to the audiotree version of Seven for an idea of what they’d be like live, which is different, but no less incredible.

ALL’S WELL THAT ENDS WELL – RAINBOW KITTEN SURPRISE

3.

LADY LIE – RAINBOW KITTEN SURPRISE

2.

BARE BONES – RAINBOW KITTEN SURPRISE

1.

THE COMEDOWN – RAINBOW KITTEN SURPRISE

Blast off. In conclusion, I guess RKS is one of those bands I love without words. I don’t have much to say about their songs – and that’s something I can’t say for many other artists.

I’ve been fucking up hard, and I hate it when you lie in the thick of it all.


Sharing some of Graves’ new songs. His latest album is much more indie than anything else he’s produced (or at least released) before, and I love it just the same. Indie music is home to me, and I marvel at the way this man can create such gorgeous music across a number of genres.

KIDS THESE DAYS – SHAKEY GRAVES

MIRROR MIRROR ON THE WALL, WHAT’S THE MEANING OF IT ALL?

How’s this for an angsty tune? It has that sort of subdued sadness, coated in sarcasm and salt. Shoot it back and hope it doesn’t burn too hot, as it flows down your spine and into the air around you.

I definitely would have played this shit out of this song during my Arctic Monkeys years.

COUNTING SHEEP – SHAKEY GRAVES

This starts off as a very “touch my body” type of tune, that quickly transitions into a head-bopping, air-guitar playing, idiot-making sort of song, and eventually fades into a sleep-inducing lullaby. I love it.

FIRST CLASS – RAINBOW KITTEN SURPRISE

Leaving you on a low note, which should be fine if you’re as tired as I am too. I love this song. I love these songs. I love you for reading my blog.


Enjoy this playlist! I truly hope you will. Click the image below to give it a listen. It is a bit longer than usual, but I’m bringing you over an hour of play time which means it will take you that much further!!

themessy life - listen now

a lady in waiting

A lady in waiting of future change

existing in the shadow

of some future living proof

I am struggling to see

the joy in embracing ephemeralities

Is it wrong to wish

that the point on which

time touches this temporal plane,

would somehow get its spatial rifts confused?

We Are All Targets: The Detrimental Effects of Police Brutality

Exploring Police Brutality
Attribution: Viktor Dukov

Police Brutality is Crime

Police brutality is neither a new, nor an isolated affair. It will not be abated without a united effort for it to be renounced. Who could have known that an unfit president would result in such widespread social unrest? I’ll tell you who knew - every threatened minority.

The word threatened is subjective in a sense, because I do know minorities who claimed to vote for Trump. It all comes down to a person’s sense of security and their regard, or lack thereof, for others. Contempt is selfish, and ignorance is an excuse. You are no different, as long as you look the same.

Folky Friends: A Pacifying Playlist

folky music - folky tunes
Attribution: Taneli Lahtinen

Folk songs are the cure to a forsaken soul. How do you get over any inconvenience? Tune the world out, and tune in to a bone chilling list of folky numbers. Here’s a list of beauty, real and true. I highly recommend giving Shakey Graves & Ed Masuga a listen.

My Life, a Collage of Near Death Experiences

written during the Summer of 2017

I keep getting almost hit by cars. I feel like I should lead with that.


In the past, I had a sort of anxiety about crossing the street (which I once wrote a fair amount about, but failed to publish). However, a few weeks ago, I almost got hit by a car and since then that fear has sort of dissolved.

How does fear materialize? Does it ever “de”materialize?

Messy Mania: July 13, 2018

messy mania july 13
Attribution: Eric Han

The word of the week is plethora, meaning an excessive amount or number. When I first learned this word, I used it ALL the time. Any chance I could get in an academic paper, I took. That was almost a decade ago, and now I’m here to share the very same word that started my obsession with particularizing locution.

What’s New On The Messy Life? July Updates

Thursday Thoughts: Working full time really wipes you out. It’s a wonder college students can juggle school, internships, jobs, and extracurricular activities. There’s something about doing the same task for hours on end, that is thoroughly exhausting.


21 Things That Made Life Worth Living in June

This month, I’m starting a new series that I am very excited about beginning. Life can be a real pain, and though there are struggles, there are also little moments that remind us life can be worth living. I want to start a collection of sorts - a monthly journal of moments, people, and things that made life worth living for me.

June was a hard month for me, for whatever reason, and I can definitely say that these small pieces of time made a world of difference.

What I’ve Been Listening to in June

Attribution: Adrian Korte

I've been listening to some pretty chill music this month. To take a break from curating topic-based playlists, today I'm simply sharing what I've been listening to in June. I hope this also diversifies the music I share with you, so you can get a better idea of new songs that deserve a listen.

Death is But One State Humans Fail to Understand

Throughout each of Zhuangzi's passages, one can find the theme of life as is. It resonates voices that work on understanding and embracing life, as well as accepting that which is left unknown. The tone of each passage is direct as it is blunt, yet indirect in that it feels lighthearted. These passages act as parables; they are not upsetting tales.

Questions​ ​for​ ​Dreamers,​ ​Unanswerable​ ​by​ ​All

Part​ ​One,​ ​Inspired​ ​by​ ​Passage​ ​2

1.  If the enjoyment of life is a delusion, then are we miserable in truth?

2.  Are those ever-attempting to achieve happiness damned to lives of unrelievable pain?

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